Parenting Resolutions: Small Acts, Big Impact

At the start of the new year, many of us reflect on our goals, resolutions, and ways to improve our lives. This recent New York Times article about making resolutions that nurture relationships struck a chord with me, particularly as a parent.

Relationships—especially with our children—are built on a foundation of small, consistent acts of love and attention. While birthday parties and trips to Disney are wonderful, I’m here to remind you that even a few minutes of attention sometimes not what you think can have a profound impact.

Think of those moments of undivided attention as a pause in the rush of daily life. Like sunlight breaking through on a cloudy day, they bring warmth and clarity, reminding your child that they are seen and valued. These small acts—whether listening to their stories or simply sitting beside them—offer a sense of security and connection that can mean more than grand gestures ever could.

They’re what I call Microsteps: the tiny, intentional choices we make to engage with our children in the midst of busy lives. It’s putting down your phone and making eye contact when your child is talking. It’s stopping what you’re doing for a quick hug when they come home from school. It’s taking two minutes to sit beside them and ask, “Tell me about your day?” These moments don’t require elaborate planning or a chunk of free time; they just require some intention. These small windows of connection, repeated daily, create a powerful ripple effect.

Got a Moment?

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel that we’re falling short as parents because we’re not doing “enough.” But connection isn't quantity; it's quality. And sometimes you don't have time, so here's what you do:

Rather than . . .

“Hmm, hold on. I’m in the middle of something. . . maybe later." A distracted reply, without looking at or acknowledging the child, misses the child's 'ask' for attention. Over time, they might even stop asking so much.

Try . . .

You know, I would love to and I see it’s important to you, but now is not a good time for me as I am in the middle of something that just can’t wait.” When you really can’t engage, and you let them know, you have turned toward. An option here is to follow up with a plan, if you can, “Could we do it in an hour?" This lets them know they can count on you (you have to follow up!) and this is connection.

As you set your resolutions for 2025, consider this: How can you weave small moments of connection into your daily life? Just like a ray of sunlight melts frost, even the smallest acts can bring warmth and transformation. Start small, stay consistent, and watch the bond with your child bloom.

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