Why Parent Coaching

What are Mary's Qualifications?

  • Mother to four daughters....born within 5 years.

  • Certified Master Life Coach (C.L.M.C.) and Certified Postive Discipline Expert.

  • Worked for American Express in New York City, Argentina and Brazil.

  • Earned MBA from INSEAD Business School in Fontainebleau, just ouside of Paris, France.

  • Founded, enjoyed for 7 years, and sold a skiing holiday company in the Swiss Alps.

  • Holds a BA in Economics and Math from Bowdoin College.

  • Life-long learner with a passion for neuroscience, cognitive behavior therapy, and child development. 

What are Mary's Qualifications?

Why did I Become a Parent Coach? 

My life experience has opened my eyes to the reality: stress, anxiety, burn out and depression are common.  It’s hard to believe when you are caring for exuberant, enthusiastic, drive-you-crazy, adorable children, but our children are at risk for these experiences.  Parents, however, are given an amazing opportunity to have a profound impact on that risk; there is much we can do, and the earlier we start, the more successful we will be. 

 

I understand that mental health is rooted in our children's experiences overlaid with our attachment systems.  Families can develop healthy habits that inoculate children against the stress and pressure of the modern world. I bring families an understanding of this simple but powerful brain science. 

I remember the exact aha interaction I had with one of my children when I truly understood that so many behavior issues are driven by their unmet needs. So I learned to meet those needs in addition to addressing the behavior at hand and suddenly everything changed.  With that new perspective, parenting is actually easier and more effective.  I want to take everything I've learned and help other families while kids are still young, so they don't have to do it the hard way.

I've been there; I know I can help.

Why Did I Become a Parent Coach?
Why Did I Become a Parent Coach?
Why Did I Become a Parent Coach?
What is a Parent Coach?

What is a Parent Coach?

I am a certified professional who understands the up to date research on child development and mental health.  As a parent coach, I customize strategies and tools to enhance your overall parenting skills and address day to day challenges.  The needs of every family are different: some want help with classic problems such as bedtime routines, homework difficulties, talking back, or lack of motivation, while others are looking for help to create and implement an overall parenting philosophy.  Regardless of your needs, I provide support, feedback, encouragement and skill building resulting in lasting change.

How Can a Parent Coach Help Me?

How Can a Parent Coach Help Me?

Every family is unique, so as your coach, I create custom plans for each family. This includes both day to day help to create immediate change for difficult behavior issues, and the support to embrace the principles for long term connection and resilience.  When we’re done, you’ll be on a path to deal with the many challenges that come along at different ages and stages, all while preparing your child to successfully navigate the inevitable stressors of life.

Do I Need a Parent Coach?

Do I Need a Parent Coach?

Times have changed.  Families are often isolated and working long hours.  And growing up is more challenging now than ever before.  This pressure and stress lead all of us to need a listening ear, expert advice, and encouraging support. 

 

Just as you see professional coaches and services in all areas of modern life, parenting is no different, and perhaps the most important area of your life to get support.

Some reasons people come to me:

  • What you’re doing isn’t working but you’re not sure how to change.

  • You feel terribly after you over-react again and again to the same struggles with your children.

  • Everyone has all kinds of advice, but it doesn’t seem to work for you.

  • You feel mentally and physically exhausted or trapped by the daily demands of parenting.

  • You struggle to set healthy boundaries.

  • You’ve read great parenting books and are on-board with the ideas but the change never lasts.

  • You have no time for the parenting books and you just want to know what to do.

  • You find yourself acting in ways that remind you of your parents but that’s not what you want.

  • You can’t get on the same page with your spouse or other caregivers.

  • You are worried about the epidemic of childhood and teen anxiety and depression, and you want to develop habits today that will help your children tomorrow.

Who is Included in the Coaching?

Who is Included in the Coaching?

That is up to you.  You can include your spouse or partner, grandparents, nannies and caregivers, and if desired, we can talk about how to involve your child.

Parent Coaching vs Therapy

Parent Coaching versus Therapy

Unlike a mental health provider, I do not diagnose or create treatment plans.  Some families utilize both therapy and coaching, based on their individual needs.  For some, therapy works well for the child, but day to day coaching is most helpful for the caregivers to develop new habits, strategies and mindsets to build a better future for their family. The most helpful support to me when I had a child in therapy was an engaged parent coach who helped me understand the issues and implement change to benefit the whole family.

How Long Does Parent Coaching Take?

How Long does Parent Coaching Take?

Every family situation is unique, but clients often find that 5-7 sessions work well to chart a new path and set up some new habits to move forward.  These are typically done weekly or bi-weekly by the hour.

What Results Can I Expect?

What Results Can I Expect?

Change is not always easy but with support and guidance you will:

  • Feel more confident and in control of your parenting choices.

  • Accumulate an enduring set of tools and principles to deal with the many challenges that come along at different ages and stages.

  • Practice strategies to promote deeper, long-lasting parent-child relationships.

  • Understand what is driving your child's behavior and confidently use that knowledge to more effectively meet their needs to promote positive behavior.

  • Be prepared: these tools will carry you through the teenage years and beyond.

What Is Your Approach?

What is Your Approach?

First, you will be heard to find out what you want and need.  With that in mind, I approach parent consulting as an opportunity for you to deepen the connection with your child and to use the daily behavioral ups and downs to nurture your child’s mental health.  The brain plays a role in everything: behavior, decision making, self-awareness, creativity, mindset, relationships, school.   And given the brain is significantly shaped by the experience, you have an opportunity to use any parenting struggle or success to help shape your child’s brain.

How Do I Start?

How do I Start?

You can start with a free 20 minute phone consultation to see if we are a fit.  From there you can purchase a single session or a block of hours to work on a comprehensive plan with my support every step of the way.  Long term maintenance is available once you've worked with me in the form of hour or 30 minute blocks. Book here

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